When a Mentor Lets You Down

Most of us know someone (or are someone) who hired a coach or mentor that completely let them down.

Feeling like borderline fraud, the mentor did not deliver half of what was promised.

First of all, as a coach and mentor myself, I’d like to say I’m sorry experiences like this are happening.

Now is the time to check expectations along with the responsibilities of both the mentor and the student.

Were the expectations reasonable?
Did the mentor hold up their end of the agreement?
Did the student hold up theirs?

In this episode, I give tips for mindset going into a coaching relationship and how to pick the right mentor for you.

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Video Transcript:

Hey guys, it’s Julie here today and I want to talk to you about what happens when a coach or mentor lets you down.

All right, so you know somebody or you are that somebody. You hired, a coach who hired a mentor and it just didn’t go well. Maybe for some of you it borders on even fraud, right?

They’re, an out and out scammer. They took your money and they didn’t deliver even a fraction of what they promised.

First of all, I want to say as a coach and a mentor, I’m sorry. I’m sorry that there are people out there that do that, but for more of you it isn’t out and out fraud, but it’s something happened in the expectations or in the process.

You signed up hoping for something and that coach or mentor either wasn’t able to deliver or deliver in the way you thought.

And as hard as it is to admit. Chances are that relationship that let down that problem has responsibility in both parties.

The first, obviously the more powerful party is the coach or the mentor, right? They set themselves up as having an expertise and then they sell that.

And so it is their responsibility to do everything they can to deliver the best experience.

And a lot of coaches don’t understand they over promise because they are taught marketing tactics that teach you to sell above all and they don’t realize that what they’re selling they can’t actually fulfill.

So that’s the coach’s responsibility.

From the side of the client or the student. I would encourage you after you’ve had a bad experience to look at what happened prior to you hiring that coach or mentor and making that sale.

What were you hoping to get out of it?

What was the current pain point that you were feeling that made you think that you needed a certain solution?

And the other thing is who turned you onto this coach or mentor?

Were you following them? Did you have a prior relationship with them? Did you buy products from them or did you go based on where the crowd was going or what you know, other acquaintances were doing?

Trying to understand what you were feeling and what happened prior to hiring that coach will help you the next time you go to hire.

And that kind of brings me to my next point.

There are a lot of coaches that are human. They’re going to make mistakes. They’re going to over promise and under deliver.

Life is going to get in the way or they’re going to be out and out fraudulent and it’s terrible and I’m really sad that the industry has that.

But that is obviously some people’s experience and if that happens to you, you may be tempted to say, I’m never hiring a coach again.

I’m never going to have a mentor and I’m just going to bootstrap my way.

I would really encourage you to try to move past that because there are a lot of amazing coaches and mentors out there.

And in fact, I have hired coaches and mentors and I can attribute the success in my business to those moments where I hired those people.

But the most important part about a coach and client relationship is, are you ready to actually hear what they have to say?

Are you looking for a savior or are you looking for a coach? Because sometimes when we’re in the thick of it, we don’t have money. We’re, you know, things are not going as we want. We’re looking for someone to rescue us and that can set up the coach to fail because they’re human and they’re not a savior.

So check your own mind, check your own heart, check your own business, and also do your due diligence.

Follow them. Buy some of their lower priced offers.

See how they deliver in the small because he can be trusted with little, can be trusted with much.

And usually the good ones, you see that quality and consistency all along their value ladder.

I know the best conversations happen after the camera stops rolling, so if you have had a bad experience or you want to talk about what you’ve experienced in the coaching and mentorship industry, leave your comments below. I read every single one.

And for more videos like this, you can go to Juliestoian.com.